Teen Marriage, Positive Or Negative? Options

[Lady Sora]

Last night, I was reading a magazine, and something really caught my eyes, a topic about getting married at young age aka Teen Marriage.

I think it's positive due to the fact it helps teen to live a good life away from bad stuff.. if you know what I mean and the same goes to girls, because some teen girls become victim to unright relationships when they pick the wrong guy to love. And also it will make people responsible.


But I find it negative.. this is confusing, because it will cost both guy and girl alot of money to take care of their new life and whatnot and they might have less knowledge on some matters.


What do you think?

[EbeneezerAl]

Hmmm. Mixed feelings.

I feel most people at that age are not ready for marriage. They aren't prepared for the responsibility that it entails. Not ready for kids. Not ready for a lot of things. Besides which, you shouldn't rush into a thing like that. You should be sure that the person you marry is the person you want to stay with for the rest of your life.

But that's not to say that no one is ready. There are people who are lucky enough to meet that perfect person early in thier lives. But even then, I'm not sure they should jump right out and get married. Wait until your life gets to a point where marriage is a good option. Then go for it.

[.Em]

You basically say goodbye to your life. I'd rather get married when I'm an adult.

[SpizzY]

I agree with Josh, if you get married at a young age you'll find out that in most cases the couple aren't mature enough to take on the new responsibilities that they get. A good working marriage required loads of commitment on both sides and as soon as thats lost then it all goes down hill. Its best to make sure you've made the right decision before going full on in guns blazin'.

[Guest_Kamille Frass_*]

I see it as much more negative than positive. Married life out in the real world is expensive, and most teens don't have the means to pay for it and really aren't ready for that commitment anyway. You'd be throwing away the best free years of your life where you are young and in your prime, free to do as you will. That won't just come back and can't so easily be duplicated.

[Azure Raiden]

Bah....to get married in the Teenage years is psychotic...

For one...you have really no idea what love truly means and what you might think it means is probably just lust. Those two feelings, in the younger years, are very easily confused. Plus, I can't think that if your still in school, and married, that your off to a good start. Life, doesn't even start until after school, when you decided to go to college. Now your married....What about college now? What about all those dreams you had while you were in school? You just threw them all away for this one person that you think you love...

Though, I’m not trying to say that it's not possible to find true love while in High School. I personally know a couple that’s been married for countless years and they met in High School. Also, my bosses wife; he too met her in high school and they'll be celebrating good old 30th next year. So it's possible...though extremely rare.

I thought I found love while in high school, but now I know that I was trying to convince myself that it was love. It never was. And this is the sad truth that I have to live with, and have lived with for the last three years of my life. I could've been deep into college now, building a future for myself and progressing towards a prosperous life. But now that life has been put on hold...Ugh...rambling.....

Teen marriage....if you think this is a good thing.....then you need to wake the F up....Your life is more important than this 'special someone' and to throw it away for him/her is the worst decision you can ever make.

[Mike]

It's strange how much changes in 30 years. My mother got married at age 18...things turned out ok. Many people did that a generation or two ago...but now it's seen as a bad thing (perhaps for good reason).

I don't think you shouldn't get married as a teen...just that there's too high an instance of divorce in that case...which I think basically destroys the point of marriage in the first place. Why not just date if that's the case? Learn to live with one anothers' flaws.

[Patsie]

a person is a teen once and an adult forever. So no to teen age marriage

[uccello]

Bah....to get married in the Teenage years is psychotic...

For one...you have really no idea what love truly means and what you might think it means is probably just lust. Those two feelings, in the younger years, are very easily confused. Plus, I can't think that if your still in school, and married, that your off to a good start. Life, doesn't even start until after school, when you decided to go to college. Now your married....What about college now? What about all those dreams you had while you were in school? You just threw them all away for this one person that you think you love...

Though, I’m not trying to say that it's not possible to find true love while in High School. I personally know a couple that’s been married for countless years and they met in High School. Also, my bosses wife; he too met her in high school and they'll be celebrating good old 30th next year. So it's possible...though extremely rare.

I thought I found love while in high school, but now I know that I was trying to convince myself that it was love. It never was. And this is the sad truth that I have to live with, and have lived with for the last three years of my life. I could've been deep into college now, building a future for myself and progressing towards a prosperous life. But now that life has been put on hold...Ugh...rambling.....

Teen marriage....if you think this is a good thing.....then you need to wake the F up....Your life is more important than this 'special someone' and to throw it away for him/her is the worst decision you can ever make.

This post feels false. Sounds like you're using personal experience to state some kind of fact. You made it sound like all the common things that happen in marriage are supposed to come with it. Check yourself, marriage in reality is like a piece a paper saying you are legally bonded together. Nothing more, either to pursue more schooling or having a baby is up to you. You don't even have to live with each other.

[Asuka]

You basically say goodbye to your life. I'd rather get married when I'm an adult.

agreed, I think its stupid your basically wasting your life away if you get married as a teen and as Azure said it's a little too young to know what love is.

[IiNcX.z]

It's entirely up to the couple who's been together. If they're mature enough to think and fend for themselves, by all means, go ahead. But nowadays, most girls would want to be with a guy who's financially stable and for a guy to reach that level, it takes a considerable amount of time, unless he's a rich guy. Even so, being rich doesn't make you a matured person.

IMO, I think it's best to wait till' you're in your late 20s before you start taking on the challenge. And having a good family support is vital.

[Azure Raiden]

This post feels false. Sounds like you're using personal experience to state some kind of fact. You made it sound like all the common things that happen in marriage are supposed to come with it. Check yourself, marriage in reality is like a piece a paper saying you are legally bonded together. Nothing more, either to pursue more schooling or having a baby is up to you. You don't even have to live with each other.

well....let me rephrase it if I may....

I just feel that people should put aside relationships and things like marrage until they have their lives sorted out. Whether that sorting includes further education or whatever is up to the person. They should at least be on the path that will lead them to their goals and their partner should not hinder that path. Thats what I think...

[Guest_Kevin_*]

Marriage should come after college, not even right after college, at least a few years after.

[jenny]

I have a couple opinions on this. Being married at a young age would basically ruin your life. You miss out on all the stuff you should be doing. Like having fun. Not dealing with marriage. Plus it would mean you'd have to get a job earlier, and without enough schooling, it would be hard to get a job that pays good money for the couple to be able to live.

However, some teens do find the right person at a young age. But still, it doesn't mean they're ready to handle that kind of relationship. I think teens should just stick to the normal boyfriend/girlfriend relationship as a teen and wait until they're ready to get married.

[Lady Sora]

I agree with Yuna, people should get married when thy feel like they can handle it and what not.

But some families want their teen daughters to get married to any guy, like something happened 1year ago or something, a girl only 13 got married to a guy who's 60 or whatever and he has many wives and even his sons/daughters older than his new wife.


People what do you call this? Teen/old marriage? this is very silly.

This post has been edited by Sorà: Nov 15 2006, 03:14 AM

[IiNcX.z]

People what do you call this? Teen/old marriage? this is very silly.

It's called "An Old Man Who Hadn't Had Enough" syndrome.

[Hypnotiq]

Cradle Snatching?

[jenny]

But some families want their teen daughters to get married to any guy, like something happened 1year ago or something, a girl only 13 got married to a guy who's 60 or whatever and he has many wives and even his sons/daughters older than his new wife.

You'd think people would have stopped doing that by now. That kinda stuff happened a long time ago. And it really needs to stop. People should get married because they love each other. And when they're ready, too. Not at a very young age to someone they barely even know, if they know them at all.

[Lady Sora]

Oh yea, I agree but I can't stop people, can I?

But you know what? I wish to teach him a lesson.. !

I can't believe that he married a very young and naive girl, what did she do to deserve such a sad fate and live with an old greedy man.

Everytime I think of this story, I just become 100% MAD. Some families are selfish, they think they lead their teen daughters to happiness when it come to these things. Pfff.

[Melorix]

Everytime I think of this story, I just become 100% MAD. Some families are selfish, they think they lead their teen daughters to happiness when it come to these things. Pfff.

How is it selfish if what they think they're doing is right for their daughter? It's called ignorance.
Nevertheless, I'm sure that girl will get her share of money when the 'bitch' dies, and she can go live her fairy tale life with some other male. Considering he clearly doesn't have much longer to go.